A Silent Witness
Quote: Manipulation is the dark side of charisma
Warning
This testimony includes certain facts that may be startling, but they are necessary to complete the context of the text.
Getuigenis
This is my testimony regarding my relationship with Adele.
A relationship that cannot exist because the abyss is too deep due to personality differences and manipulative behaviour, resulting in dramatic events.
The first encounter
I met Adele for the first time on November 25, 2005, in the flat of my future partner Veerle. Her daughter was then recovering from a medical procedure, and I paid her occasional visits and assisted her with some practical matters.
We started folding laundry together and before I knew it, I was holding a spoon and helping Rudi eat at Christmas dinner.
One thing has led to another, and over the years, besides to some dramatic events, we had some wonderful times.
Adele and Rudi, her husband, dreamed about spending the end of their lives at the Belgain coast. That dream became reality in 2006. As from november 11, 2006 they were living a house in Adinkerke, near De Panne. The fulfillment of that dream gave their relationship a new meaning, with many positive moments, One of them was the marriage of Veerle and me on July 7, 2007.
Tijdens onze huwelijksreis maakten we zelfs de beslissingen om ook te verhuizen naar pand nabij haar ouders.
In 2008, onder extreem moeilijke familiale omstandigheden, werd de verhuis afgerond en in de jaren daarna zijn er ook veel mooie familiemomenten geweest.
Om een dieper kader te geven, wil ik aanhalen dat Rudi aan de Ziekte Van Parkinson leed en er een hoge zorglast was. Adele nam de huishoudelijke taken op zich, terwijl Veerle en ik alle andere praktische dingen deden, naast onze voltijdse betrekkingen. Op de oppervlakte lijkt dit een normale familiale werking, maar verborg het een mentaal probleem bij Adele?
Het moet wel gezegd dat Adele probeerde om de zorg voor haar echtgenoot en ons zo goed mogelijk te doen en we hebben getracht haar hierin zo veel mogelijk te steunen, met al zijn uitdagingen.
Mentaal en financieel was deze situatie voor Veerle en mij enorm belastend door de hoge leninglast en de noodzaak van middelen om binnen het kader de zorglast efficiënt te werken.
Daarnaast is deze complexe situatie ook de oorzaak geweest van verschillende burn-out voor Veerle en mij. Jammer genoeg was dit ook een prelude voor de finale keuze van mijn partner om uit het leven te stappen op 9/5/2018, naast andere factoren.
Veerle made her final choice on September 5, 2018. When I arrived home from work at 7:30 p.m., I found her hanging from the attic stairs.
Although this was an act of desperation, writing her suicide note seemed to be a moment of clarity, but without the ability to look objectively.
There are three major reasons for her passing:
In October 2017, she began experiencing abdominal pain caused by adhesions between the uterus, ovaries, and surrounding organs. Following the confirmation of this diagnosis, we went to several hospitals in quest of a solution. We made every effort to make the best of the situation, no matter how challenging the times.
2. Morphine
The pain grew agonising after a while, and after being admitted to the hospital, physicians decided to provide morphine patches. In Veerle’s case, this decision included significant hazards that proved fatal in the end, particularly the addictive and toxic effects that affected her already sensitive psyche.
3. Psyche
Veerle used to an empath, just as me. That consequently means that her core personality was extremely sensitive to negative influences.
In 2013, she fell into a severe burnout after a rollercoaster of events. When I look objectively at all the factors today, it’ s safe to assume that the following factors played a role:
- The psychological effects of being unable to fulfill our desire for children. All possibilities, including adoption and foster parenting, were considered. Also see the blog post “Silent Cries: The Unspoken Pains of the Lost Childhood Dream”.
- The responsibility of caring for her parents.
- The physical discomforts after the weight gain of the hormonal treatments for in vitro fertilization.
As her partner, I have followed most of her guidance closely at the time. Unfortunately, the obvious conclusion of devastating impact on her of assuming the parental responsibilities for her mother during her childhood, remains undeniable . Most of her decisions about her parents and grandparents throughout her life were influenced on the unhealthy experiences of the parasitic bond between her and mother. (Parentification) Also see the blog post “How Can Parenthood Affect Someone’s Adult Life?“
Looking back on our love relationship, certain memories reveal a different perspective on some events, such as her (unsuccessful) suicide attempts due to a misinterpretation of societal standards. Her Interpretation of these values are clearly linked to the parentification pattern. Unfortunately, there are elements in my own youth that have also had an influence on my perception on society through time.
In 2016 she has resumed her professional duties, only to relapse in 2017 due to the suffering caused by endomytriosis.
Veerle has also mentioned those elements in her farewell letter as well, but there is an undertone of unfounded fear about various topics:
- For the detoxification of morfine medication
- The potential suffering of the planned operation the week after her decision.
- The fear for a legal financial guardianship due to the financial complexity and problems caused by her long-term illnesses and the administrative entanglement due to the intertwining of both families (parents/our family)
In 2020, I became an unintentional addicted to medication (see the paragraph titled ‘Own oxygen mask first’) and literally walked in Veerle’s shoes and experienced her mother’s manipulative style first hand. To be honest, given the circumstances,; it makes her final choice almost logical, although it still leaves a bitter after taste.
Veerle’s premature passing came as a complete surprise.
To be completely open on the topic, it was a financial, emotional, and practical entanglement with no clear direction. What follows next are all the factors that have influenced my decision to let myself be adopted as an adult at the time.
- Care responsibility: There was no one else that could handle the responsibility of caring for Veerle’s parents who was familiar with the complexity of the administration.
- Financial: due to the complications through the years, the overview was lost lost.
- Emotionally: I really grew attached to Veerle’s parents through the years. I sincerely loved them.
- Practical arrangements: At that time, it was Rudi and Adele’s desire to pass away together through euthanasia at a moment of their choosing, although we didn’t know how that had to be handled.
After a long deliberation, We determined to proceed with the procedure for an adult adoption in order to fulfill all of the prerequisites at once.
When you take a step back today, it remains a sincere and logical step, but can you state that the decision was emotionally colored by the grieving process surrounding the death of my partner, their only daughter.
In the years following her passing (between 2018 and 2020), we managed to move on and function as a family.
One of the highlights was the weekend. Each Sunday, we went out to lunch, as a regular way to conclude the week. It was also something my adoptive father genuinely looking was forward to.
The only thing that really stood out was that Adele made silent comments when a new life partner entered my life: “Do we have to pay for her dinner?”, while they insisted to keep this activity alive. In the end, I just paid our share of the meal to keep the ‘peace’.
The adoption and financial arrangements also allowed them to improve their quality of life. Their quality of life was substantially improved by the installation of adapted furniture, a stair-lift, and other technical upgrades in the home.
This enabled my adopted parents to function independently to some extent, with a support team supporting them with the day-to-day management of the household, while I handled the administrative and financial parts.
These arrangements gave meaning to Adele’s life.
The corona pandemic, however, broke that fragile balance. We were forced to stay indoors. It also became clear that Rudi’s life forces were completely exhausted and he finally passed away palliatively on 28/09/2020.
I genuinely miss him. Nevertheless, his death marked the end of his life, while Adele and I began a new chapter in ours.
Quote: It is not in itself the absence of light, but the belief that the light is no longer present.
A Dutch expression goes as follows: “One recognizes the beast by its behaviour.” Unfortunately, when the safety of an old situation is broken, a new arises which could reveal old problems to the foreground. With the passing of her husband, Adele fell into a black abyss; she had to go on alone.
Loss and the breaking of a long symbiotic relationship leaves people empty and distraught. Grief puts you in touch with your core and that is quite confronting. There are people who cannot handle this encounter and the emptiness it produces. It really depends on your inner core how you deal with it.
When you maintain a realistic and positive attitude, you will grow and learn from your experiences. Negativity will reinforce previous patterns. All I can see is that Adele’s negative cycle was reinforced, which in turn increased her need for aid.
A constant over the last 60 years (based on memories of various traumatic circumstances and what Andreas (Father of Adele), Rudi, Adele, and Veerle have shared with me through the years) has been the inability to truly cope with the reality of life.
Some memories are lovely, but when you look at the repercussions of her previous smoking (COPD) and alcohol addiction, I only observe a further degenration which is difficult to live with. She also has been diagnosed with an atypical form of Parkinson’s disease (Body Lewy Parkinson/dementia), which may have an impact on her mental health.
What we do see is Adele’s unwavering helplessness in which the naked truth is frequently altered to fit her ‘problem’. She begs everyone to help her, to ‘rescue’ her. By phrasing things in a manner that comes down to, ‘Aid me, aid me in my anguish; the great dreadful wolf is out to get me.” (the exaggeration helps to paint a clear image of the situation)
As far as we can tell, she is unable to answer for the ultimate accountability for her conduct. When presented the question “Do you know what the impact of your words is?” the response is: “No, and why should I take that into account?”
She is also extremely impressionable, which my ex-partner warned me about in an email from February 2021. Words that I took seriously, but which were rejected by the support team at the time.
If you dive deeper into this topic, you will notice a manipulative generational pattern starting from the mother that could drive both sisters’ current behavioral patterns.
On the other hand, there’s always the question of “What am I doing wrong?” Is it an attempt to deal with her being superficially, without really understanding the consequences? Is she truly capable of accepting full responsibility for her words and actions despite her inability to assess their potential repercussions?
When someone helps her out, underlying demands may arise, requiring that everything be done according to “her” standards.
Isn’t it logical for people to give up or get exhausted? For those who actually loved her, this is heartbreaking. Other wary people detached themselves because they believe they are being used.
Aside from those who aid her from their hearts, there are those who ‘assist’ her for selfish reasons. As her confidant, I am constantly considering, “What are their goals?”
This situation is largely obstructed; you are held captive in an unclear situation and the question constantly plays in your head, “What’s next?” It is something you are never really at ease with.
It is a similar pattern if you care for someone, you guard, protect and act when the need arises. That’s also why I couldn’t make the distinction at that time. However, there is a very distinct aspect that has been playing constantly over the last 19 years, but was at its most dire in 2021. I could only learn to recognize it by learning and applying the thinking strategies.
When you board a flight, an instructional video is always shown on how to use your oxygen mask. It is also stressed that you should put on your own mask before helping others.
The cause of my crash on Oct. 3, 2020 was due to exhaustion. physically, mentally, energetically… due to not really having the choice to take care of myself, but to take care of others first…. For several months I juggled 7 balls:
- A part-time job as an ICT Coordinator.in a school group
- Part-time studies as a teacher, as a result of this job.
- Following up and completing all actions and paperwork for the death of my adoptive father
- The burden of care for Adele (which was heavier than most can imagine)
- The plus-parent role in the composite family I was part of.
- I supported my biological father, who had the burden of care over my mother.
- The financial burden of a lawsuit regarding a property with hidden defects and an impending renovation.
When did I really have time for myself when I was sometimes on the road for 16 hours a day?
Everyone seemed to understand, but my mental vulnerability was misunderstood (invlusion). Doctors tried to keep me working by applying the the “universal” method and increased doses for benzodiapines, antidepressants and synthetic sleep aids. In a few weeks I was completely overstimulated, a plaything of my emotions, impulsive, in short all the side effects of those medications could occur and I became involuntarily addicted.
Finally on 23/12/2020, deliberately chose a long-term admission to the Rustenburg therapeutic center to figure out what really needed to be done.
This meant I had to leave Adele behind, however difficult this was, whatever the consequences.
After I concluded all forms of therapy in 2022, it was determined that I possess an empathic personality (hence why I became an empathic coach), with my shielding being compromised by exhaustion.
In addition, my body is highly sensitive to the side effects of medications like cortisone, benzodiazepines, antidepressants, and synthetic sleeping pills.
In the event of excessive tiredness, there is a possibility that I could relapse into the active glandular fever, a chronic condition.
Factors that had a profound influence in my life but could never be identified before.
It is safe to say that this decision remains fundamental to my well-being, because I would have ended up making the same choice as my late partner had I not dealt with it.
However, from her own pattern of survival, Adele herself became a victim of other hunters.
A trusted home care nurse took over Adele’s care. Together with her husband, they wanted to use her financial resources to partually fund a move to Spain. Only by cooperating with the police could we finally free her from their clutches.
During this rescue, I was helped by Adele her sister Victoria because there were no alternatives to house my adoptive mother in a safe environment.
At that moment I thought, “The enemy of my enemy is my friend.” A statement that turned sour on me because Victoria has developed a subtle form of manipulation which is supported by her psychological training. She works gradually, covertly.and creates a fog that hides hear true intentions.
In the first weeks after Adele’s rescue, Victoria regularly sent me pictures of how “well” my adoptive mother was recovering,
But in a first confrontation under Victoria’s supervision on 14/05/2021, my feelings of guilt were triggered. It was in itself a beautiful day and four of us were sitting at a table outside in the garden of Victoria’s then boyfriend. Sitting directly across from me was Adele on the right, her sister on my right side and finally her boyfriend on the my left.
Adele came first, reproachfully, With statements such as, “You are responsible for this situation!”, “You are not a family!”, “You made the wrong decisions!”, my failure was highlighted and colored my thinking emotionally.
Then Victoria took the floor and proposed to take over the burden of care, but under the following conditions:
- The adoption bond had to be broken.
- Most of all the sums used between 2006-2020 had to be repaid.
I ended up signing a contract along those lines while feeling guilty. Let me also clarify that my thinking was clouded by the emotional impact of previous experiences, the recovery from burnout, and the de-addiction to medication….
A few days (17/5/2021) later, the same tactic was used in a video interview with a notary. First Adele went into an accusatory role, then Victoria wanted to go into a negotiated role. However, the conversation was disconnected after these allegations….
The next step was emails.
One factor few knew about was Adele’s inability to write emails. Something no one had been able to teach her up to that point, even after 8 weeks of training by my in 2020 during the Corona lockdown. (Remote teaching)
I received emails, with language completely inconsistent with Adele’s verbiage, emphasizing more and more money. Ever higher amounts, ever becoming more threatening. Eventually I was forced into the decision to break contact.
It didn’t stop there, however. Victoria manipulated Adele further and further. A will was drawn up for her benefit and that of her sons. Then the first steps were taken to legally enforce the aforementioned contract.
Did Victoria herself become the prey of Adele’s pattern of manipulation? Or was this part of the isolation pattern out of “genuine concern” and became an attempt to exploit a dire situation?
In both examples (both with the home nurse and with her sister), Adele was isolated and instructed to take targeted actions to further exploit the situation. This is known stage in the behavior of a manipulator/conspirator with unethical intentions.
Because of the ambiguities where a carrot was held in front of Adele’s nose where words like “we care for you” and “family values” were used in a false context.
Finally, In August 2021, other older conflicts played out between the two sisters, with Adele begging me to save her. In haste, I then offered a solution that -in my sense- would allow her to potentially recover.
Unfortunately, Adele is unable to break free from her old patterns of behavior, creating new situations all the time due to her misshapen view of reality. Some of them led to new conflicts, causing the gap between us to deepen as I was constantly drawn into her story. Only by distancing myself could I gain and maintain a clear understanding of her condition.
VIctoria’s behavior is completely in line with my previous experiences with her over the past 19 years, where, as today, a fog is created around a situation to disguise her true intentions. An earlier example of this is the application for custody of both sisters’ father in 2008.
In 2007, Andreas was diagnosed with heart valve failure. However, the operation to replace his heart valve had several complications. For his recovery, Andreas was taken in at the Queen Elisabeth Institute, a rehabilitation facility in Oostduinkerke. During his six-month admission, there were a number of strange occurrences that could indicate manipulative acts by Victoria, including the suggestion that he move into his home and take care of him.
To finally pour clear wine, an application was made to the justice of the peace court in Tienen, to confirm the guardianship of my partner Veerle. However, the petition was rejected because their father was deemed sufficiently capable of will by the justice of the peace.
It was his own choice to eventually be admitted to an assisted living and care facility, where Veerle and I were responsible for his care during the first few months.
After our move in 2008, Victoria took over the care of her father.
In 2010, however, we had to see for ourselves that the care in the rest home had seriously deteriorated due to budget cuts. As a result, Andreas was seriously weakened because he could no longer eat independently. He needed help, but there were not enough staff available from the institute.
Veerle and her parents eventually decided to move him to a nursery home in Veurne. Unfortunately, he passed away one month later from a longinfection.
After the funeral, there was no -as far as I know- no contact between the two sisters till the day after my partner passed away in 2018, where I called Victoria to share the sad news.
The cause?
The only thing I want to add is that my partner Veerle made every effort to respect her grandfather’s wishes in good conscience, both during his life and after his passing.
An example of this is his desire to sit at the table with his daughters one more time at our wedding on 7/7/2007 and the full settlement of his estate.
It is not my job to pronounce on the causes of the pattern, only to assume my responsibility in this distressing situation, as an adopted son, as a human being. To protect myself and her from herself and others.
When Adele contacted me in August 2021 to rescue her from the manipulative situation with her sister Victoria, I did so for the last time. Arrangements were made for her to move to an assisted living facility in Bruges where she could build a new life.
Contacts were made to work on her mental health, with the goal of regaining independent functioning or possibly justifying a death by euthanasia.
Afterwards, I withdrew to give her recovery every chance. Every Sunday evening I visited her to discuss ongoing problems and go over the paperwork, whether either of us was sick.
During 2022, I also began laying the groundwork for my bilingual coaching practice. One of the courses planned was a language trip to Manchester. Not only to improve my English language skills, but also to learn about British social and cultural values. When you engage in conversation with a client the conversation simplifies when you understand the full undertone, but it is that trip that just brought out her true nature.
On 11/11/2022, I was home for administrative appointments and went to visit her because I would be traveling again that weekend to finish the training. The conversation did not start that way, but slowly I was able to observe the pattern:
- Victim role: I have a problem:…
- Emotional blackmail: You don’t like me anymore,…
- Blame: You are to blame for…
- Aggression: there was no physical, but there was verbal violence, An abusive tirade in the hallway as I walked out the door.
If you look at this a little deeper you can clearly see the elements of the drama triangle (victim/accuser) being played up, to put the DAS (Coercion, Fear, Guilt) on me.
It was not the first time, but it was the moment when I stripped her of her power and control over me for the first time. There was no longer any alternative to taking the next step to protect Adele: Financial guardianship.
Examples of acting in the victim role
Apart from all these observations, there are also events that can confirm the pattern of manipulation.
- One day Adele had a first appointment with an elderly psychiatrist in Bruges, where I accompanied her (read driver). When she got in the car, she walked with a stooped, difficult gait, leaning heavily on her walker. The behavior was also consistent when she entered the doctor’s office. However afterwards, she simply left the walker and walked smoothly to the restroom and back. A snapshot?
- In 2022, there was also a problem with the maintenance of her apartment. The cleaning lady was not doing her job properly and it was “dirty. When I visited the apartment the following day and did some checks, I could find absolutely nothing that confirmed her claims. Shortly thereafter, I had a conversation with her in which I was accompanied by the manager of the complex. After roughly thirty minutes, we punctured the balloon. It turned out that the cleaning lady had promised to do something and could not/would not do it…. An act of revenge? It is also consistent with situations surrounding other domestic helpers in the years before the passing of her partner and daughter.
To protect her from exploitation, I ultimately chose to place her under financial guardianship, to create a more secure setting for her, without compromising her capacity for will. At the same time, I move in the background, at the direction of her support team, to ensure that she is materially well off.
But in the end, a security measure remains out of necessity to protect her from exploitative practices that took place over the years, the most dramatic of which took place in 2021.
Today Adele chooses completely by herself what she says and does, maybe manipulated by others, maybe not, but regardless of all the consequences, she is capable of will and bears ultimate responsibility for her decisions.
SInds this breakup, Adele tried to call me repeatedly and on 3 occasions I spoke to her, but it became clear by the content that the gap was too deep.
I agreed to do the financial management until the appointment of the administrator, but unfortunately those moments were used to manipulate under various forms.
After the appointment of the financial administrator, she persisted in this pattern of behavior. I received text messages including the following content:
- You are my confidant, you have to take care of me.
- Remember Veerle, help me.
Or did I get calls at the most inappropriate times, both on my personal and business number, which I didn’t obviously stop answering,
I can only say that it affected me deeply and made the decision to block her in all communication ways. (Phone, WhatsApp and all social media)
The latest feat dates back to November 26, 2024. I had to switch to a new smartphone due to circumstances and 1 channel (Facetime) was unprotected. Seven hours after configuring the phone, I received 00:31 a call from her. (Below is a screenshot of the call)
The sensitive data was removed to still protect her privacy.
Let it be understood that this is effectively stalking. Unfortunately when I spoke with the Police and my counselor, they advised me not to file a complaint, it is ultimately about a psychologically compromised person.
On the other hand, a complaint would again reinforce her victimization when the Executive would ring the bell.
I am not the only one in this situation, although it is quite rare. As distressing and unique as these situations are, it was up to me to learn how to deal with them and give final responsibility back to the perpetrator(s).
Another element at play in Adele’s life that I no longer participate in is moving.
Since the death of her partner, Adele has already moved 5 times, each time calling her home a golden cage….
The second move was really out of necessity in which, under police escort, her meibels were removed from a residence. The third time, conflicts with her sister Victoria were the cause but what since then?
Is it an escape for her, knowing that the fulfillment of the framework will not meet her standards, unwaveringly stuck in a traumatized soul? Or the realization that the bridges have been burned by her behavior?
Whatever it is, it is not my responsibility. It is a problem that existed before I met her and no one can solve for her, It is my job as a son to protect her whenever possible, a legal responsibility net every child must bear….
But the ultimate responsibility ultimately lies with the parent, as long as he or she has the will.
What has been written down so far are largely consequences of Adele’s behavior over the past 19 years, but what are the causes?
Unfortunately, I don’t have enough data and there are countless factors at play in a person’s life. Nor is it my place to do so. However, there are factors (based on the memories of events shared by Adele, Rudi, Andreas and Veerle) that may play a role.
Education
During Adele’s upbringing, there was little room for emotionality and her father repeatedly brought out the leash on transgressive behavior, whatever the motivations were. In part, there are also events that may indicate that she had to fight for her right to exist.
Experiences of suicide
A second confirmed factor is her sister Victoria’s suicide attempt after a first love affair. Adele then watched beside her sister’s bed for 6 days and even took her on her honeymoon to speed up Victoria’s recovery process. But what care did Adele receive?
It can be argued that this may have had an impact on her independence. The smoking and drinking addiction came afterwards, as well as the inability to cope with life.
As an experience expert, I realize the impact of these fatal decisions on a person’s life. It breaks people more than once, usually in a mid-life crisis when people start thinking about their lives. In my video on social media, I even take the position that suicide can spread like a virus if the consequences go untreated.
However, her daughter Veerleom’s dramatic decision to exit life is a trauma that further thickens her trauma onion.
HUidig past physical trauma
At this time, the following diagnoses were confirmed:
- COPD – Adele has battled a tobacco addiction for a very long time. Unfortunately, this has resulted in COPD, making her regularly short of breath.
- Parkinson’s Disease: Like her partner, Adele suffers from the effects of Body Lewy Parkinson’s. Besides the classic symptoms, the question can be asked to what extent dementia plays into her survival behavior. However, it is impossible to comment on this (even for doctors) because it is a degenerative pattern. Also, it is also unclear to what extent the alcohol addiction caused brain damage.
It is enormously difficult to draw any concrete conclusions from and as a human being and son, I can only stand idly by as she slips further and must keep my distance so as not to provoke further conflict.
(Pre)Judgments through time
So let’s be open about the fact that psychiatric help had a bad name in that period (between the 1950-2000s). A judgment that was also mentioned in Veerle’s farewell letter. A copied pattern?
Visionary circle
No doubt her loneliness plays a strong role in her self-efficacy. But what is the cause of her inability to engage in healthy social contacts? How can her situation be made livable -if possible? For one piece, the question arises: is Adele sufficiently self-reliant at all, or do other decisions need to be made?
Unfortunately, it is no longer up to me to comment on this, but to medically trained people who specialize in this field to be able to put the puzzle together.
No more relevant data at this time, but the content of this article in itself provides food for thought.
Each article, story or testimony is told or put down by a human being, colored or not by life experiences.
This testimony has been written down because as a human being I also had to deal with patterns of manipulation with far-reaching consequences. But this is also the very last time I want to write down or fully narrate. In a narrated account, however, it is also impossible to include all the details of this story.
But let it also not be a secret that Adele’s behavior is also challenging for her help team, and I would also like to hereby express my gratitude to the people who sincerely tried/attempted to help her, but were unable to complete their task successfully.
This is part of my story, in all its facets, citing the thinking strategies employed in the face of manipulation, to recognize the behavior, and teach myself to protect it by being able to look at it from a human and loving point of view.
If you want to tell your story or seek a solution in a complex situation as an empath, step out of your fear and just make an appointment for a talk. Of course, these conversations are in complete safety and discretion.
Help is available
If you are struggling with black thoughts, call CHS Belgium if you need support or visit their website on www.chsbelgium.org.
Footnote
The story is unfortunately not fictional, The names of some persons were substituted so as not to further burden the present state.
These comments may be questioned, yet they are entirely supported by medical records, third-party witness accounts, and incriminating papers. There are other aspects that have yet to be discussed, and there will undoubtedly be unanswered questions, but does it matter? Where there are solutions, there may also be criticism, putting us back in the house of drama that serves no one.
