What are common traits for empaths?
There are several common traits that apply to most empaths, some might be more sensitive to one or show more vulnerabilities, but what are they and how can you deal with them?
Learn more about them while reading this blog article.
Keypoints
- The common traits
- What are the consequences?
- What can you do about it?
- The four pillars
- Summary
The common traits
There are several common traits that apply to most empaths. Some might be more sensitive to one, or experience multiple vulnerabilities
As we all know, every human is unique. Our human DNA, upbringing and experiences determine our perspective on life. A filter that makes up our mental state, resulting in actions, regardless of the consequences.
This blog article begins by showcasing its characteristics and then covers how to alter the filter.
Deep emotional world
Empaths feel deeper than most people.
Pain goes deeper and touches them in the heart, triggering overemotional reactions like crying, irritation or anger.
Joy will not only put a smile on their face, but they will radiate that feeling.
A song will touch them in such a way that it moves them to tears or intense happiness.
Others might perceive that as intensive, but it doesn’t mean it really is. You’re just different, unique in your own way.
A gigantic antenna
You’re walking over the street, and it feels like little needles are sticking you as you go. You hear the conversation of people walking by. You see a cat crossing the street and you cringe from the sound of the car slamming it’s breaks. Feeling annoyed by the emotions of the person next to you in the coffeeshop.
Most people don’t even notice these details, but you, you feel the intensity of every sound, every smell in the air and you perceive it as chronical stress.
You’re not abnormal, you’re highly sensitive, neurologically your nerves act as giant antennae.
Emotional sponge
You’re home, enjoying a warm cup of tea in the sofa, while listening to a beautiful song on the radio. You feel great and relaxed.
Your partner enters the room, you pick up his irritation, alarmed you look at him and suddenly you find yourself in the same foul mood and you’re annoyed by it.
Without realising it, you’ve absorbed his emotional state as a sponge. This is common for most empaths as stated by Dr. Judith Orloff in her books.
Intuition
Sometimes you know things before they happen, or you say something that is bang on, without knowing the context behind it.
Everyone has that trait, but somehow you can take it to a new level. Don’t worry about it, you’re just unique in your own way.
What are the consequences?
Low energy levels
You arrive at work, filled with energy and the motivation to get your tasks done. The mails are dealt with quicky and you get on with your other duties. But during the morning you start noticing that your colleagues are talking too loudly, the printers are buzzing in your ears and slowly your energy gets drained. At noon, just before you get up to go to lunch you notice that you feel depleted and then there is still the afternoon to go…
Most empaths will recognise this situation as it’s common for them.
Being criticised
More often than not, people are quick in their preconceptions, judging your behaviour without really understanding your ways or thinking about the impacts of their words.
What can you do about it?
In her book ‘The Highly Sensitive Person’, Elaine Aron gives us a fourfold approach to improve our understanding of the way we are, to rethink our mindset and change our attitude, integrating our traits and using them as a strength.
- Self-Knowledge
The starting point is to fully understand what it means to be an HSP and/or empath. Discover your own abilities and how they influence the way you act.
You may view this level as understanding the basic concepts like building a boat or playing guitar in a logical manner. What are the acknowledged qualities, and to what extent do others exhibit the same?
This will build the groundwork for you to put together your personal ‘user guide’, which will aid you in the following step.
- Reframing
The framework assists you in accurately probing your behavioural patterns and identifying your distinguishing characteristics. The idea is to adjust your lifestyle so that you can accept yourself exactly as you are.
Reframing also means that you’ll start to notice how older generational patterns have influenced our childhood, youth, and adulthood. Subconsciously picking up things every day and absorbing them in our lifestyle. Sometimes that behaviour has been destructive for us and others.
This could trigger emotional responses in your trajectory, but it also highlights the significance of the third phase.
- Healing
Empaths might find it challenging to sustain their relationships in some instances, especially when their abilities are unmapped. You can’t put it into words, but you believe you can do and be more. More often than not, grieving traps you in the same vicious circle that it creates and intensifies.
The healing process is not to be overlooked. It may be difficult to figure out a technique to completely treat these wounds while considering your strengths.
Most empaths have a gloomy outlook on life. The reframing and healing will increase your self-awareness while expanding your thinking, decreasing the weight of your baggage, and eradicating your inner critic.
- Learn to feel okay when you’re out and about and think nothing about it
Changes take time and occur in steps. Small changes at first, which gradually become a regular habit, resulting in a healthy lifestyle.
The four pillars
In order to help you become a better HSP and empath, we focus on four essential pillars.
- Mental condition
- Physical well-being
- Maintaining energy equilibrium
- Identify your neurological sensitivities.
We help you work on the various areas of self-knowledge:
- Insights on being an HSP and empath might boost your IQ by highlighting their influence on daily living. Your awareness will expand as you gain foundational information and experiences from others.
- Understanding the impact of your sensitive impulses on your physical well-being can increase your PQ (Physical Intelligence). Understanding the significance of sleep, good eating, the balance of exertion and relaxation, and their effects on stress levels will improve your abilities to control your body.
- Stimulating your IQ and PQ strengthens the connection between your feelings and emotions, encouraging you to become an observer. Instead of becoming engulfed in emotional reactions, you will learn to control your emotions. (EQ equals emotional intelligence)
- The synergy between IQ, PQ, and EQ will enhance social skills by regulating how you interact with others based on your unique features. This will enhance the quality of your relations. (SQ=Social intelligence)
- Discovering your spiritual nature may relieve emotional stress and connect you to your essence. This boosts your intuitive talents.
- Therapists who use the standard approach to HSPs and empaths frequently ignore the energy aspect. All holistic techniques rely on energy as their base. Some call it universal energy, divine love, quantum gridwork,… its applications are limitless. If empaths absorb the vibrations of other people’s energy, doesn’t it make sense that they require a good energetical balance? This is why, along with the other three pillars, energy management is the fourth cornerstone.
Summary
This is a summary of what HSP and empath coaching entails.
For some, it is an easy puzzle, for others, it may feel like a huge load. But ask yourself this question: how do you survive today, and how do you want to live tomorrow?
Even if the road ahead might seem long, it always starts by taking the first step: reaching out.
When will you do that?
Our one-on-one sessions, workshops and retreats will help you to connect to yourself and like-minded people.
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