A Mother’s Legacy: Love, Loss, and the Power of Energetic Ties
Everyone needs to mourn their losses and to be completely honest on the topic, losing my mother on 09/02/2025 has made me aware that losing the one’s mother can have a profound influence on life. Moreover, having observed several aspects of her passing, made me realise that the unending circle of life will continue till the end of times as we measure it.
My parents have welcomed me into the world on October 31, 1970, and have always accepted me exactly as I am. Their affection and guidance helped me grow up and become a man. They both passed on their knowledge and abilities about life, which they had learnt through their lives and acquired in part from their parents.
They, like everyone, have their talents and shortcomings, but I am really glad for their inheritance.
When she had been diagnosed with cancer in 2019, her suffering really started. Through these years, she has some good moments but also endured several relapses.
Every time, my father has stepped up and they underwent everything together, truly connected on a deeper loving level.
During one of our conversations over the last few weeks, he told me that she has shown her appreciation and gratitude towards him for his unwavering support.
Unfortunately, the emptiness of her absence leaves him devastated at the moment as he also must endure his bereavement. I can’t image what he is going through, after having shared a life for more than 56 years.
Isn’t it obvious that he has truly fulfilled his marriage promise to support his spouse through good and bad times, as most partners do…
On the other hand, it’s unavoidable that every child has to endure the loss of their mother, so have I… During the first few weeks I seemed to be able to work without a problem, sometimes a tear rolled over my cheek when something has touched my feelings. However, without consciously realising it, my mental control slowly took over… partially suppressing emotions until something has triggered my deeper raw feelings.
Knowing that I would have a delayed emotional reaction, my ignorance of some red flags didn’t pay off, because I felt I had to keep on going… thinking rationally: I’m already doing everything at a slower pace, isn’t that sufficient? Well, it wasn’t!
I truly had to slow down for a few weeks, requiring support from a friend to heal wounds and allowing them to teach me what had triggered that pain.
I love my mother in my own way… truly lucky to reconcile some old issues before she passed away. What I didn’t realise was how deeply my mother and I were connected. Only when she passed away, I could truly feel the absence of her energy.
Holistic coaching and psychology are based on the principle that 80% of communication is subconsciously and the energetic interaction between people is a fundamental part of that. Especially empaths are sensitive to that aspect of connecting.
Furthermore, during the first seven years of the development of a child, they will accept everything from its surroundings unconditionally and that starts already in the womb, right after conception. The foetus resonates with everything that the mother thinks, feels and does and absorbs that, unaware of the consequences later on in life. Some theories even suggest that DNA is composed of the lifestyle of the parents.
Unaware of that, my mother and I also have shared a strong energetic bound. In a sense, throughout my life, I have observed her well-being all the time, wherever I was on this globe. Sometimes consciously but mostly unaware… sometimes it really felt suffocating, especially when she was suffering (emotionally or physically). Sometimes draining my energy, and I can go on with writing down observations…
More importantly, only last year, I finally found a method that allowed me to choose to consciously shield myself from that connection. Throughout my life several people had suggested that possibility, but it took training and discipline to learn and maintain it. In the end, it made a difference to find my own inner balance.
Feeling the raw grief, really reconfirmed that statement. When we were truly disconnected after her passing, some of the raw feelings of grief were triggered by the absence of her energy. Has that energetic connection also had a soothing, effect on us both throughout the years? Did she have a fear of abandonment and has she passed that on to me? It seems logical today.
It made me also more aware of the consequences of the energetic connections that I have shared with my partners during intimate relations over the years, but that is a completely different topic.
Does everyone have to go through this phase? Yes, everyone will be influenced to some extend by the disconnection of that energetic connection. but as only 20% (estimated) of world population is highly sensitive and/or empath, it would only logical that mourning for HSPs and empaths can be more intense. It truly depends on, where you stand in life, how sensitive and who you truly are.
Mourning means more than going through some feelings and emotions. An aspect of bereavement is the ability to disconnect from your loved one on multiple levels:
- Mentally
- Emotionally
- Physically
- Intellectually
- Energetically
It also involves a disassociation recognising and being grateful for what has been by looking at the bigger picture and reframe your memories. That integration takes time, especially for HSPs and empaths.
The way you endure your path is basically a choice. Does the loss bring seeds for a new life phase or your demise?
Nobody will make that choice for you, you alone can.
Sweetharmony Happiness Coaching can help you to find a way through your maze of pain an HSP and empath. As a human, I’ve gone through different life phases that has inspired me to support others in their quest to truly heal their wounds.
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